The 5 Stages of Grief After Losing a Pet – And How to Move Forward

The 5 stages of grief in pet loss

Developed by psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, the five stages of grief can provide a framework for understanding the emotions that come with losing a pet. These stages are not linear—people may move back and forth between them or experience some more intensely than others.

Denial: "This can’t be happening"

Denial is often the first reaction to losing a beloved pet. It’s difficult to accept that they are truly gone. You may find yourself expecting to hear their paws on the floor or feel their presence in your home. This stage acts as a buffer to help process the shock of the loss.

Anger: "Why did this happen?"

Once reality sets in, anger can emerge. You may feel frustration toward yourself, a veterinarian, or even fate. Many pet owners struggle with feelings of guilt, wondering if they could have done more. It’s important to acknowledge these emotions without letting them consume you.

Bargaining: "If only I had more time"

In this stage, people often replay different scenarios in their minds, thinking about what they could have done differently to prevent the loss. You may find yourself wishing for more time or thinking of ways you could have changed the outcome. While painful, this stage is part of the healing process.

Depression: "I miss them so much"

Sadness and loneliness can feel overwhelming. The emptiness left behind can trigger deep sorrow, and you may feel unmotivated or withdrawn. It’s essential to allow yourself to grieve and reach out for support when needed.

Acceptance: "My pet will always be a part of me"

With time, the intense pain lessens, and acceptance begins to take hold. This doesn’t mean forgetting your pet or no longer feeling sadness—it means finding a way to honor their memory while continuing forward.

Moving forward while honoring your pet

Although the pain of losing a pet never fully disappears, there are ways to keep their memory alive while finding healing:

• Create a tribute– A scrapbook, photo album, or framed picture can serve as a beautiful reminder of your pet’s life.

• Write a letter to your pet – Expressing your feelings in writing can be a powerful tool for healing.

• Plant a tree or flower in their memory – Watching something grow in their honor can provide comfort.

• Join a support group – Connecting with others who understand your loss can make the grieving process less isolating.

• Seek professional or structured support – A pet loss program like ours can provide valuable guidance in processing emotions and moving forward.

You don’t have to go through this alone

Losing a pet is a deeply personal experience, and it’s okay to grieve in your own way. If you’re struggling with loss and need structured support, our 8-week personalized pet grieving program is designed to help you process your emotions, honor your pet’s memory, and find a path toward healing. Each step is crafted to guide you through your grief with care, empathy, and a structured approach that helps you regain a sense of peace.